This whole “Fiscal Cliff” thing got me thinking (as I’m sure it did most of you).  Actually there was one particular statement I heard today (01/01/2013) that sort of summed up this entire debacle for me.  A pundit who works on ‘The Hill’ said the issue with most Republicans he had spoken with was, and I quote, “They view compromise as a sign of weakness”.  I don’t know why (because I have heard it a thousand times in the past month or so) but for some reason, today, it profoundly struck me.  And here is the question I was left with…  How is the realization that we share the planet with other people so hard for some to grasp?

Compromise is not a sign of weakness it is a sign of maturity.  It is only the adolescent mind that believes the world revolves around them and their needs.  Grow-ups recognize that all healthy relationships are built on a number of things…  Listening, clear communication, a feeling like you have been heard and compromise, just to name a few.  No one can have his or her way 100% of the time.  We do not live in a Monarchy (remember that whole American Revolution thing).

A few thoughts to ponder…  How ‘bout we start taking charge of our country again and not leave major issues up to a few children who continue to bring all conversation to a screeching halt every time they don’t get their way.  How ‘bout we start ringing our Representative’s phone off the hook when they hold their breath and throw a monkey wrench into our democratic process (Republicans have used a record breaking number of filibusters since 2007).  How ‘bout we start making them behave in the way we adults run our every day lives.  And for most of us that is responsibly.  How ‘bout we get rid of people who are willing to derail our country for the sake of ideology.

Life is filled with compromise.  That is not a bad thing.  What is a bad thing though is when a small group of people hold their own self-interest above the masses.  Can we once and for all get grown-ups in the room who are willing to look at the bigger picture and find middle ground?  I believe we can if that is where we put our focus.

Michael Foley





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Michael Foley

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Michael Foley currently lives in Los Angeles where he pursues his passions. Writing, psychology, spirituality and politics. He has been a fierce advocate for LGBT rights since the early 80′s, during which time he was part of New York City’s Act-Up and a volunteer at the Gay Men’s Health Crisis. He has worn many hat’s over the years including nearly a decade in Corporate America where he was an Operations Manager in the Insurance Industry (please don’t hold that against him). Today he is a produced playwright and actor who continues to support and fight for LGBT equality and the healing of the LGBT Community.