“Who would choose this?” A question often times used as an argument when confronted with those narrow-minded folks who still cling to the idea that “the gay” is a choice… And, a question that I have loathed since the very first time I heard it. You see, “Who would choose this?” could imply to those […]
Ever since that young woman with pigtails and ruby slippers clicked her heels and uttered those five magic words “There’s no place like home”, we as a community have been obsessed with the idea of finding ours… All right maybe not the whole community… Some of us… Alright, me… I have been obsessed with the […]
The picture you’re looking was sent to me by a friend back east… It’s me in my junior year of high school way back in 1979 (I was 16). Now, after the initial shock of the hairdo wore off, there I was, all of a sudden, being bitch-slapped by a flood of emotions caused by […]
There are certain goodbyes that, regardless of how prepared we think we are, push us to the point of breaking… It’s as as if a hole the size of the Grand Canyon has been ripped into our souls… Grief comes in waves and at times we feel like drowning would be a welcome relief from […]
Birthdays are an interesting animal. Unlike most, I don’t dread the day (I live in LA), I actually rather enjoy it. In fact, the older I get the more I enjoy them… And it’s not because of the “party” aspect either (truth be told, I much prefer celebrating someone else’s birthday)… It’s because of the […]
I believe most of us have lived a moment (for some, self included, probably more like moments… Many, many moments.) where life becomes a bit painful. And, if we are grown-up enough, we can admit to ourselves that our pain is completely self-induced. And I say that because some of us have the propensity to […]
Word is that we will have a decision regarding Prop 8 on one of these 3 days – June 13th, June 17th or June 24th. With that said and regardless of the outcome (I believe victory will be ours), I got to thinking… And after the searing pain from that had subsided, I was left […]
I have been profoundly struck by the rise in hate-motivated assaults directed at the LGBT Community over the past months. In fact, I was in the middle of a rant filled post about the blind ignorance of some of the people in this world… You know type. The ones who are so filled with self-loathing […]
There are a lot of ignorant people in the world… And because of that one has to choose his or her battles wisely… Today I choose to battle. This week Dr. Ruth made one of the most ignorant statements I’ve heard in some time… And that’s saying something in today’s world. The statement was in […]
In the midst of the horrific events at the 2013 Boston Marathon two things flashed through my mind as I sat and watch the heart wrenching live video. First: There was an overwhelming sense of sadness for the lives that will be forever impacted by a person or persons that the innocent have never met… […]
Ever wonder what you would say to yourself at a younger age if you had the chance? I look back at who I was when I was younger and have such compassion for that boy. He was lonely, scared and literally crippled by the circumstances that surrounded him. A little compassion goes a long way […]
A word… A feeling… A concept that constantly baffles… Sometimes fleeting. Sometimes planted as firmly as a centuries old redwood. It is sand in our hands. And it is the rock that is as solid as anything we have ever felt. Our lives are at the mercy of this elusive beast… But our souls rest […]